Remember last year when we were all making resolutions and trying to stick to them? Good times.
Let me set the scene...It's New Years day, about 3PM. You're awake, you're up and you start thinking about the fact that yesterday was a different year. Spooky. You're in the bathroom brushing your teeth, looking at yourself in the mirror. The year might have changed but you are definitely the same you, with the same hair, face and tendencies as yesterday. You start thinking of all the things you want to get out of this year; travelling more, new memories with new people, romance, new job, 'finding yourself'- whatever that means. Better write down some resolutions, or at least tell someone so that you can keep yourself accountable. You tell someone who is either likely to forget or who won't make you feel super guilty if you fail.
*sends text* Done.
Roll on this year...
New Year, New me.
The classic line, but why don't our New Years resolutions ever seem to last? Probably because we already quite set in our ways. The clock striking 12 won't magically change us into something we're not.
Many people have moved past the tradition of setting a New Years resolution. We millennials are all about self-development.
Though we want to make steps to become better, many of us still hanging on to our old habits with no intention of letting them go. Instead of replacing our old ways of doing things with new, better patterns, we pile our shiny new resolutions on top of the old, hoping that no one will notice the mishmash of old resolutions that lay beneath. If the TV show, Hoarders, has taught us anything it is this will only lead to one gigantic mess. Change (lasting change that is) requires us getting rid of the old stuff and making way for the new.
The clock striking 12 won't magically change us into something we're not
Change is both necessary and inevitable. We don't have to wait for change to happen before we decide to adapt. This year will hold a new set of challenges, opportunities, highs and lows and we have the right to preempt what kind of person we want to be as we enter it. "Be more adventurous" "Say yes to new opportunities" "Be more resilient" etc.
However its essential that we let go of the things that will not help us to make these changes a reality. Making our fitness goals a reality means getting rid of our old habits of eating whatever is cheapest and quickest. Being more adventurous means kicking our habit of saying no to anything that sounds scary. Get the pattern? In order to say yes to something you have to say no to something else.
3 hurdles to climb when it comes to change
Making lasting change is just like clearing out your room.
1. Clearing up is time-consuming
2. As you clear up you always realise that you have some form of emotional attachment to various items. (It cannot and will not be thrown away, lest your memories go with it.)
3. You find something and even though you haven't known where it was for the last six months, you are adamant that you'll need it one day.
It's really easy to convince yourself to keep things that you don't need anymore. Whether it is things, people, situations or mindsets, we have to know when to let things go.
It may well be time consuming and tedious to sort through your junk and clear it out (all the more reason to do this regularly). There may be things that hold treasured significance in your life that you do not feel ready to let go of. There may even be things that we haven't let go of because we think that they are going to benefit us in the long run. We need to work out what things have to stay and what things have to go.
This January, lets get rid of the old and make way for the new.