We're getting to the age where online it appears that everyone has come into their own. People are graduating with firsts, others are celebrating long term relationships. Others still have managed to break into careers that are a distant dream for some.
So what do you do when you're time has not come? How do we handle not popping on the timeline?
My advice is to cut down how much time we spend on social media. It is such a killer. You've probably heard the wise advice of not comparing your bloopers to someone else's highlight reel. We really do not understand the power that this actually has. Whilst the internet has inspired some of us to go out and do things we never thought possible, it has also forced us to focus on how we present what we have achieved. We measure our successes by their public likeability, as opposed to measuring it by our own standards of achievement. What about our mini victories? What about the things that are a big deal to us that may be insignificant to the wider world? We have got into the habit of devaluing these things in light of the fact that they are not socially celebrated. Inadvertently we have contributed to the problem of not popping on the timeline. We are slowly creating a global standard of what is worth celebrating by using likes to promote or demote a "thing".
Live your life.
Not long ago I took a break from social media. I deleted Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat. It was the most refreshing thing I have done. I was genuinely surprised by how much you can get done when you get off of your phone. Once I got past the feeling of being outside of the loop, it actually became an excellent way to focus on myself and what is important to me. It forced me to focus on how much (or how little) I have invested in particular friendships. It made me think about how much (or how little) time I spend with God. Ultimately, it made me realise that there are things of vital importance to me that it is easy to forget about when I'm online.
Social media is not real life. It is a reflection of the things that our happening in our lives. We put the content on here and we can pick and choose how much we show. Social media is like a work of art or a piece of literature; it is here to represent a time, to capture a sample of society. It is unable to perfectly capture the complexity of real life.
With that in mind, I think of the TL. I think of the time spent creating perfect posts and uploading pictures at the prime "liking" time. What are we doing? Massaging our egos? Looking for a bit of self-confidence from someone other than ourselves?
Social media is like a work of art or a piece of literature; it is here to represent a time, to capture a sample of society.
Unfortunately, not everyone can be an internet superstar. If we are looking for the cheat code for social media success we won't find it. Sometimes this best thing to do is to look away from the timeline. To stop giving it the limelight, hailing things with plenty of likes on them as royalty. Remember, it's not that deep it's only the internet. - Note to self.