Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and Snapchat. Platforms for us to religiously watch the way other people live their lives and run their race. Sometimes we spend so much time in the stands watching others that we forget we have our own race to run. There is nothing wrong with supporting other people. I'm a strong advocate for being your friend's hypeman. However, I've been thinking about the time we waste feeling intimidated or insecure because of the success of others.
"We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
- Marianne Williamson
It's so easy to play the comparison game writing ourselves off from being able to accomplish what others have achieved. Whether it's grades, body goals, relationships or financial stability, we treat these things like they are limited edition; the presence of them in other people's lives means resources are depleting.
This couldn't be further from the truth. The influence of others "unconsciously gives other people permission" to have the same influence. The confidence of others "unconsciously gives other people permission" to be confident. The things other people have achieved shouldn't intimidate us but should inspire us. Success isn't a prize reserved for a few, it's for those willing to work for it.
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No one else in the world, in history, has your fingerprint. You are the only you that will ever exist. You are the only one that has your proportions. No one will ever have the same amount of funny, mixed with sympathy, mixed with intelligence, mixed with creativity or whatever other characteristics you posses. We were created unique on purpose and for purpose. With that in mind, how can we realise that purpose if we spend time trying to be someone else or not living at all? We wont win anything if we aren't in the race.
Contentment is a fundamental part of staying in your lane. Contentment isn't about settling neither is about being happy if, it's a decision to be happy now. Without the ability to be content we waste energy running away from the lane we've been given. Something like the "The grass is always greener" effect. To be content is to stay in your lane. To focus your energy on moving forward towards to all you want to achieve. The first step takes us being content in where and who we are: the grass is greener where you water it.
Sometimes we feel intimidated because the things we want to achieve just seem too far to reach. We see others achieving them and can't imagine ourselves getting there. Those dreams are going to stay to far too reach if we don't get moving towards them. As I like to say 'Do you boo boo'. It just takes a commitment to keep working towards your goals all the time. Who knows, the way we run our race could liberate others to do the same. How can anyone be inspired by the way we ran our race if we aren't running it?
To me staying in your lane is a reminder to stop quitting before I have begun. It's a reminder that yes others are doing great but so will I. I set the pace and I run my race. I'm not in anyone's lane but my own.